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Boudoir Advocates

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I was having a conversation with another photographer and friend of mine awhile bakc and we got to discussing boudoir photography, which by the way we both shoot full time.

What started our conversation was the fact that a certain photo contest does NOT allow boudoir photography.  This infuriated both of us because firstly, why the hell not and secondly it allowed maternity boudoir!?  My friend then proceeds to tell me that when checking out some of the images, she noticed a photo of a dead baby at 12 weeks gestation that was competing. I said: “Wait, what?? Are you kidding me? So that type of image is allowed to be entered into a photo contest?  Maternity boudoir is allowed to be entered but NOT straight up boudoir? How is that even right? Who decided this and WHY?”

We then proceeded to talk more about how boudoir photography isn’t properly recognized as an art form like other genres of photography.   Unfortunately, it is still viewed as sexualizing women, dirty or slutty photography which couldn’t be further from the truth. This viewpoint was also demonstrated by an online conversation between my friend and other members of the group/company/page that was running the photo contest. This is an incredibly narrow minded and sad viewpoint on OUR genre of photography.

It angers me that boudoir photography still isn’t even represented in the proper and deserving way it should be at all the BIG photography conferences that happen around the world. It is so frustrating to think that what we do as photographers isn’t respected or doesn’t garner the same respect as other genres of photography.

Something has to change.  There needs to be a shift in thinking in our industry as well as outside the industry. We need to start educating people on boudoir photography and ALL the benefits of it. We need to start talking about it more, share the benefits of boudoir photography. There are FB Groups out there like AIBP that focus solely on boudoir photography and those are all amazing but MORE needs to be done in order to bring awareness to this beautiful genre of photography.

We boudoir photographers need to UNITE and start being ONE VOICE for boudoir photography and begin spreading the word further and wider. My friend and I decided to start a new page/group called Boudoir Advocates United in order to help spread the positive message about boudoir photography and help educate people. We want women, men, past clients AND other boudoir photographers to join the group and help in this mission.

This is a very important cause/mission to me and I would love YOUR help with spreading the word. Voices get louder and are heard more in numbers so please if you are interested in learning more about the group or joining the group click the link below and join the group.

Let’s spread the word about this incredibly amazing genre of photography and help to make it more mainstream and NOT frowned upon or looked down upon.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/boudoiradvocatesunited/

https://www.instagram.com/boudoiradvocatesunited

Feel The Fear.... And Do It Anyway

I know for a fact my fears have prevented me from doing things.  When I look back on it, I wish I had simply thrown caution to the wind and done them.  So often in my life I have been scared to do something or try something new for fear of failure or any number of other ridiculous reasons.  I know have missed out on opportunities, lost out on jobs all because I let my fears get the better of me. I know I can’t go back and reclaim the things I have lost out on but I can stop my fears from causing me to lose out again in the future.

I am finding as I grow older and when I look back in retrospect, this has happened on more occasions that I care to admit to.  This is probably because when we are younger we don’t really know fear.  We don’t consider that we may fail or think about the consequences of our actions.  In this regard I am envious of young people.  Perhaps as adults we just need to try to find and embrace that fearlessness again.

Sometimes, as scary as it might be, you just have to leap before you look and see what’s down at the bottom when you land. As we have heard so often, there is no reward without risk. I know fear is an incredibly powerful thing and at times it can be paralyzing but perhaps if you are able to figure out how to flip it on its ear and use it to your advantage, the benefits can be life altering. I mean really, what’s the worst thing that can happen to you? Failure? Well you just pick yourself up, dust yourself off and try again.

Now I know these words are easy to say from behind a computer screen but I am also going to put my best foot forward and take a running leap and see where I land, with my photography, my business and life in general.  So if you are so inclined to join me on this journey of conquering your fears, embrace it, feel it BUT don’t let it overpower you. It’s not easy nor is it going to be but who said anything would be easy? The real fear is NOT trying! Fear can be a paralyzer or a motivator, which one will it be for you?

 

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