The Baby Birds Have Flown.... We Are Left With an Empty Nest

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Well, this blog post has nothing to do with business OR photography for that matter. This one is more of a personal post.

I have done a lot of thinking and contemplating over the last few months as the day drew nearer.

Now I have heard the words thrown around countless times by various people and have heard many talk about it but until it comes your time as a parent, the words “Empty Nester” don’t really register in your mind or thought process. Well, on August 31st that day arrived for my wife and I. Let me tell you, it’s one of the weirdest feelings ever. Especially when you are so used to having 2 kids around, playing, fighting, arguing and just general noise makers. Both of our girls have now flown the next, the oldest one about a year ago and our youngest just last month.

One lives 2 hours west of us and the other lives 3 hours east of us. Could they be any further apart? Of course they had to go in opposite directions, lol As parents I think we all have moments of excitement as our children get into their mid- to late teens and we think about finally having the house to ourselves. But as that day begins to draw near, reality and dread kind of sets in and your realize….wait a minute, these little humans you have spent your life, teaching, nurturing and raising aren’t going to be here anymore. They aren’t going to “need” or depend on you anymore or at least not as much.

Now I know they never stop being your kids, no matter how old they get but it’s not the same, you cannot protect them in the same you could, when they were living under your roof. I guess at some point you just have to let go and let them move onto that next chapter of “their” lives and venture out into that big world, just as we did at their age. It’s a very very odd feeling to not have them here in the house when you come home from your day or to see them come in through the door after an evening out with their friends or after their shift from work, whatever the case might be.

It certainly is going to take some getting used to that’s for sure! They never stop being your children. They are just a bigger/older version of that. I guess we have to look at as not only a new chapter in their lives but also a new chapter in our lives. Now is our time. With more available time my wife and I can finally focus on the things we have always wanted to do and experience together.

Time to start enjoying each other and living more grand!!!!

In Memoriam - Losing a Loved One

This post has absolutely nothing to do with photography, art or business for that matter. I just felt compelled to write down my thoughts on my way into work this morning on the subway. You see, the past few weeks have probably been some of the toughest I have ever had to endure in my life.

Just over a week ago, I lost someone very near and dear to me. My father in law passed away last week after a long hard fought battle with cancer. Yes that horrible C word that has touched and affected most everybody’s life in one way or another. Over the past few weeks my father in law had been entrenched in a horrible battle with mortality. He was fairly sick but everything seemed to happen so damn fast and completely unexpected in terms of how quickly things progressed.

He was a great man, had a personality that lit up the entire room and when you met him, you instantly liked him. He was just one of those people with an infectious personality. When he spoke you could hear his loud booming voice all the way over on the other side of the room. Family was everything to him, the cornerstone of life and in the end that was what he held on for in those last days of his life. Frank was taken from us long before he should have been and we the surviving family members and friends are left to pick up the pieces and carry on with life. That’s the peculiar or funny thing about death, the living are affected by it far worse as they are the ones left behind to grieve and deal with the finality of it all.

Although there is a huge void in our lives which he once filled, I know he wouldn’t want any of us to hurt or mourn the way we are right now because he is not suffering any more. He would want us to carry on with our lives, go about our business but remember him for the amazing man he was while he was with us.

So Pops (as I liked to call him) as I finish writing this in your honor, I promise you I will carry on with you always and forever in my heart and mind. I can assure you with all certainty that I will take good care of your daughter Mary (my wife), your granddaughters Nicole and Julia and of course Mom (mother in law) for you. You have my word on this!

You are sadly missed Pops and there will NEVER EVER be another one like YOU! Love ALWAYS and FOREVER your friend, your son in law, your son!