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New Years Resolutions - Why Wait?

You know I heard something the other day that struck me as quite peculiar and after giving it some serious thought, I found it to be quite true. It revolves around this whole New Year’s resolutions and new beginnings thing.

I was listening to the radio in the car and the DJ was talking about the top 10 New Year’s resolutions people make and listing them off. She then said “if I am going to make a promise to do something for me or to better myself, why the hell am I going to wait until a certain day of the year to do it? Why wouldn’t I do it right then and there? Right away? Perhaps the simple fact of the matter is, most people just don’t think about these things until the last day of the year because it’s so engrained in us to make New Year’s resolutions we figure we are going to make those promises to ourselves at the end of the year anyway”

I thought about it for a minute and it struck me as so true. Why do people wait until the new year to start new things like working out, eating healthier, lose weight, quitting smoking and the list goes on and on. Where did all this begin and why?

Is it because they figure it’s a new year, a clean slate? Fresh beginnings? Mind you, I am sure people aren’t sitting around in June or July thinking, ok I am going wait until the new year to start working out or quit smoking or be nice to people. We have all made New Year’s resolutions I am sure. It just got me thinking as to why so many people wait until the last day of the year to make promises to themselves to do things to better themselves etc. starting the next day?

Does it take on that much more significance for someone on the last day of the year? Are you going to be more serious about it if you promise yourself to start something in the new year?

I guess my thinking is, we should ALWAYS be striving for better for ourselves all throughout the year! Live life now. Take chances. Quit smoking. Do it now!   Don’t wait! Although, as it is the beginning of 2016 you really have no excuse.

 

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Body and Self Image - A Very Serious Issue

What do you see when you look at YOURSELF in the mirror? Do you see beauty? Do you like what you see? Or do you see FAT, UGLY…DIRTY?

We all deal with self and body image concerns but that seed of self-doubt and negativity had to be planted at some time in our lives and sometimes these things take a bit of time to emerge. This isn’t even isolated to adults and is happening with our children more and more.

We need to deal with this incredibly serious matter early on, nip it in the bud! It’s imperative we start with our children and youth. There are many contributing factors and I don’t think it can be attributed to just one. Bullying, lack of parenting, mentorship at school and responsibility in the media are most likely at the root of this controversy.

We all live in a day and age where we are literally and constantly bombarded with imagery, sound bites, texts, tweets and information, or in a lot of cases misinformation, every minute of every day. It is next to impossible to filter out all this noise. All of this information is accessible with such ease and speed that was never possible before.

I am not here to blame anybody for what seems to have become a pandemic in society, rather offer some suggestion as to how we can all pitch in and do our part to confront the problem as a collective so we can at least begin to unravel this quandary. We need to educate our kids at home! We need to talk to them! Let them know it’s not the norm to look like these super skinny models they see on TV, in magazines and on the web. Dads tell your daughters that you like curves on a woman! Moms tell your daughters what you like about yourself! It’s not easy but we have to ask what kind of example are we setting? Are we pushing what we want our body image to be on our children? We spend so much time teaching our children manners and how to share but did we forget to teach our children to love themselves!? Do you make comments about people when you see them on TV or in the street?

It is perfectly alright to look different, to be different. Learn to love yourself for who and the way YOU are! We need to stop hurting other people, whether it be physically or verbally! It is not ok and will not and should not be tolerated under any circumstance. Teach them there will be consequences for their actions. Words can do more damage than the physical can.

This problem is not going to disappear over-night nor will it fix itself or go away all on its own. I truly believe we can make a noticeable difference. After all, the children and youth of today are the future of our world tomorrow. What do you want your children’s tomorrow to be like?

 

Signed,

A concerned parent.

 

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