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Put Your Money Where Your Mouth is... In Front of the Camera

 

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I can honestly say I really don’t like having my picture taken and I am sure there are quite a few photographers out there who would agree with this sentiment. I know it sounds strange, a photographer who doesn’t like being on the other side of the camera?!

For me, I am most comfortable BEHIIND the camera; I don’t like that feeling of feeling vulnerable and awkward. I don’t know how to pose or genuinely smile without having it come off looking fake.

I have been thinking about this quite a bit lately and the more I think about it, the more I see clearly that it’s quite hypocritical of me as a photographer to take that stance on getting in front of the camera. How can I possibly expect my clients to relax and feel comfortable in front of the camera if I don’t do it myself? A practice what you preach moment, if you will. 

Perhaps it’s even a little bit more hypocritical for me being a boudoir photographer.  I have women who are complete strangers, wearing very little clothing getting in front of my camera. I pose and light them for photographs.  I talk them through the photo session. I try to help them feel relaxed and forget they are in front of a camera to make it a little less of an intimidating experience.

Now more than ever I think we male photographers need to step into our clients shoes and get in FRONT of the camera.  Maybe have a female photographer shoot us in a “dudoir” session.  You know, put my money where my mouth is!  I have noticed a trend online over the past while that more men are doing exactly that and I think it’s amazing. It doesn’t have to be cheesy just because I am a male.  It can be done very tastefully. All the images I have seen from male boudoir (dudoir) shoots were very well done.

We need to do this in order to feel and understand the vulnerability and nervousness our clients feel when they step in front of our cameras so we can HONESTLY relate and genuinely say we know how they feel.

I am challenging all my male counterparts in the industry to do exactly this! Including me! I am looking for a female photographer that is up for the task of photographing this mug of mine!  Any takers????

Live Life According To You - Think Outside The Box

I had a very interesting conversation with a family member over the Christmas holidays. He is older than me and currently retired.  Our conversation started about jobs, pensions, vacation time and medical benefits, things like that. I was telling him about all the wonderful things I get from my employer for my years of service and he in turn told me about all his.  I already knew about most of it because he is family and I was familiar with the company he had worked with and what they offered to their employees.

I told him all about my job and the things that annoy me about it. He proceeded to tell me that I just need to suck it up and deal with it because EVERYBODY hates their job!  It’s just a part of life. He went on to tell me he hated his job and wanted to quit repeatedly over the last 14 years he was employed but stuck with it because of the pension and of course, the money.  Typically his generation stayed at one job for the duration of their working careers but things have changed and will continue to change with the each generation.

I found his statement to be kind of sad.  Giving it even further thought, I felt that it’s even a wee bit close minded.  Just because that was the path you chose doesn’t mean it has to be your destiny. On one hand it’s just human nature we stay with what we know, what’s comfortable but on the other hand so many people stay in something they are not happy doing every day for a variety of reasons.  Whether that is the money, the benefits, the pension or just the fear of the being without those things I do understand it and why he made that statement.

It really drove some things home for me.  I am thankful for our conversation but why the fuck should ANYBODY stay and be miserable at their jobs if they really don’t have to?  Who says you have to? Fear dictates this to a certain degree but why stay stuck in that box? Why be miserable at something we spend over half our lives doing? We typically spend more of our lives at work then we do with our families at home. This miserable feeling/mood will undoubtedly spill over into multiple areas of our lives, right? Break out of that box people I urge you to do so if you are unhappy. Life is far too short to be unhappy. Don’t stay just because everyone else says it’s the right thing or the responsible thing to do! Follow your heart and do something out of the ordinary.  Think outside the box and helllllz yeah it will be scary and there will be times you will be paralyzed with fear but at the end of the day, aren’t YOU worth it?

The Awakening - An Epiphany of Sorts

One day last week I had an awakening and it was like nothing else I have ever experienced or felt.

Have you ever experienced a feeling of not being where you are supposed to be or you are not where you belong? Well I experienced that exact feeling yesterday and it was an incredibly strong feeling that I couldn’t seem to shake. I was at my full time job and it just hit me like a ton of bricks.

I have had a plan in my head for some time now about making the jump to photography full time from my corporate job but yesterday it struck me like a bolt of lightning that I have to make that jump and soon.

Now this could have something to do with the fact that I just returned from an amazing two week holiday in Europe and the UK. Could it be a result of some recent conversations I have had with some friends and family that have or are going through the exact same thing as I am right now? I am sure all of these are contributing factors not to mention the fact there have been some recent developments which have caused me to do a lot of thinking about my “career”.

Whatever the reason for this epiphany, I feel I have got to finally stop talking about making the jump and actually take that leap once and for all. I have to make this dream of mine happen because nobody else is going to make it happen for me. I know I will have the help I need and of course most importantly a support system which is a necessity when doing something like this. I have decided that NOW is the time to make it happen. Carpe Diem! I have received the proverbial kick in the ass I needed to finally make me do this.

Let me tell you, I am so excited and have never been so amped up about doing something as I am at this moment in time. My day of reckoning has arrived and I am psyched about bringing Visuphoria Photography to the world.

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